A parent’s pathway is constantly cobbled with surprises, problems, complications and joys. However, each parent has a common goal of developing a better relationship with the child.
Most parents feel a sense of happiness and satisfaction when their child emulates them. But what about the time when the child sees opposite of what his parent want. As a parent you have certain expectation of how your child should behave but his or her behavior may not model your own. Your child may not behave in a way that you deem appropriate. His or her choices may be different from yours. This shatters many parents. If you push your child against the wall, you will face resistance and defiance. Letting him/her find his/her own way is often difficult, but it comes with long -term rewards of trust and love. Becoming independent and self –sufficient, are healthy signs for children. You have to raise your children to be independent and emotionally self sufficient, but at the same time loving and caring towards you.
The individuality of children needs to be respected. If children differ from parents who have constantly and selflessly nurtured them or made sacrifices for them, they should not feel let down and neither this should lead to conflict in the relationship. For as Kahlil Gibran has written- ‘ Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself .’
They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls. For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not ever your dreams.
Stay Supportive! Stay Healthy! Stay Happy!